Homeopathy for Healing Relationships/Breakups : A Gentle Approach to Connection.
Homeopathy for a break ups
Homeopathic remedies can provide support and solace in the aftermath of a relationship breakup, helping individuals cope with emotions such as grief, shock, anger, and despair.
Regardless of the duration of a relationship or whether the breakup was mutual, emotions often run high during this time. Feelings may range from profound sadness to intense frustration. Some individuals may even experience symptoms of depression or post-traumatic relationship disorder, while others might turn to alcohol or food to cope.
Understanding Relationship Breakups
Various reasons can lead to relationship splits:
- Communication Issues: Poor communication ranks among the top causes of relationship breakdowns.
- Infidelity: Infidelity is a common reason for relationship woes, with 30 to 60 percent of married couples experiencing it at least once. The emotional impact can be profound.
- Differing Life Goals: Couples may discover incompatibilities in terms of career aspirations, family planning, or lifestyle preferences.
- Financial Problems: Financial stress, including debt and money management disagreements, can strain relationships.
- Lack of Intimacy: Diminishing emotional or physical connections can lead to dissatisfaction and, ultimately, a breakup.
- Incompatibility: Couples may realize fundamental differences in values, interests, or personalities over time.
- Addictions: Substance abuse or addiction, such as alcohol or drugs, can put immense strain on relationships.
- External Stressors: Work-related stress, family conflicts, or health issues can exacerbate relationship tensions.
- Abuse: Any form of abuse, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, can be a compelling reason to end a relationship for safety and well-being.
- Cultural and Family Pressure: Cultural norms and family expectations can influence relationships, sometimes leading to breakups.
The likelihood of reconciliation after a breakup often depends on the relationship’s duration, with approximately 50% of couples getting back together, and around 30% of those successfully working things out.
After a breakup, the feeling of rejection and loss is more than just grief. fMRI studies have shown that when a person feels rejected or abandoned, the same centers of the brain that respond to physical pain are activated.
The 5 Emotional Stages After a Breakup with Homeopathy
People go through various emotional stages following a breakup. Homeopathy can offer support at each stage:
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Denial/shock:
Remedies to take
Arnica is helpful for shock and physical bruising. It can be especially useful in cases of emotional shock where individuals may appear fine on the surface but feel strange or disconnected. It’s common for them to deny any emotional distress “I’m FINE”.
Aconite – This is the great remedy for shock, panic, anxiety, trembling, terror, fear and restlessness. These people are very obviously severely distressed and require a lot of reassurance. It is common for them to think they are going to die.Aconite can be taken retrospectively to help you recover from a past event or experience that has left you with deep physical or emotional scars.
Gelsemium: belongs with the group of remedies whose response to trauma is subdued. They become sleepy, dull, weak and tremulous — in a sense paralyzed by the shock they sustained. Their eyes droop. Though fearful and sad, they can’t cry. They are extremely listless.
Ignatia can also be thought of as a great shock remedy for emotional shocks such as breakups
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Grief:
Ignatia is the main remedy for acute grief or disappointment after a breakup. It suits emotionally sensitive, idealistic individuals who experience grief when their idealized expectations clash with reality. Behaviour can be hysterical or changeable. There may be indignation, anger, outbursts and recriminations. Crying in public is avoided. Weeping can involve convulsive sobbing. There will be brooding and sighing and a lump may be felt in the throat and wanting to be alone. The heartbroken person may refuse to eat or threaten suicide.
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Anger:
Staphisagria is indicated when individuals suppress their anger and indignation after experiencing humiliation, such as in cases of infidelity or abuse. You may have been cheated on, or physically or verbally abused, or even raped, and you feel totally humiliated and want to hide from it. You are generally gentle and kind, but either have no outlet for your anger or feel that you need to stifle your emotions, which can cause you to have occasional explosive angry outbursts. Your suppressed indignation can often manifest as physical symptoms such as styes, itchy skin, and urinary tract infections.
Nitric Acid: Those needing Nitric acid are exhausted and harbor extreme anger, often leading to depression. Their sensitive, compassionate nature cannot comprehend what happened and they react with hatred, fantasising revenge against the “enemy,” unable to sleep at night and becoming absolutely exhausted. Their anger eats away at them and bursts out uncontrollably, leading to depression.
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Bargaining:
Pulsatilla individuals fear abandonment and crave constant love and affection. They will describe themselves as needy, way before the break up. There can never be enough hugs or kisses. You feel abandoned and cry every day, and you just want someone to put their arm around you, comfort you, and take care of you.you just want to curl up in someone’s arms so they can console you and tell you everything will be ok. You can be angry and jealous especially if there’s no one to console you. They may experience jealousy and anger when not comforted.
Cocculus Indicus: For individuals experiencing anxiety about others and insomnia following a tragic event.
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Depression:
Natrum Muriaticum individuals yearn for unattainable love and often dwell on past relationships. Your love is always unrequited. You live in the past wishing for the boyfriend that you broke up with years ago, or live in the future dreaming of the perfect relationship that may never be. You cry in private, alone, not wanting anyone to comfort or console you – that only makes you feel worse. You have a tendency to be depressed and introverted and grief may show up physically, with a tendency toward headaches, eczema, acne, or cold sores.
Aurum individuals alternate between highs and lows experiencing deep despair from disappointed love and grief. There can be exuberance to deep depression almost manic happiness to deep dark depression and isolation to sudden rages and explosive anger. In extreme cases, they may contemplate self-harm which if this is the case please reach out and seek immediate help.
Phosphoric Acid: Those who need Phos-ac. become indifferent, apathetic or physically weak following a relationship breakdown. They want to be alone, their emotions become ‘frozen’ and they suffer in silence. They also lack energy, feel exhausted, and are prone to physical problems triggered by their grief. Refreshing things such as juices and fruit may be craved. Think of Phos-ac when: the person becomes physically and emotionally feeble, and doesn’t want to talk or be with company.
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Acceptance and Moving On:
No contact rule
Allow space for healing and personal growth after a breakup. It involves cutting off communication with your ex-partner, both digitally and in-person, for a designated period.
3-month rule:
Wait three months before dating again. The reason for this societal dictation is to give the people involved a breather, some lead time, maybe a little room for forgiveness.
What’s the hardest thing after a breakup?
The death of a future you imagined for yourself with your ex, one that you probably imagined together, can be one of the most difficult things to come to terms with after a break-up. It makes your present that much harder to get through and t’s OK to mourn and grieve the loss of this imagined future.
Let’s remember that:
women are more likely to call it quits than men. 76% of women said that they had ended the relationship, just like 62% of men. Women might end things more often, but they also feel more pain after. (Some data (such as from self-reported surveys) do suggest that men recover from breakups faster than women).
Other Useful Resources:
https://www.thecalmzone.net/guides/relationship-breakdown
https://www.relate.org.uk/getting-over-breakup
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/
Here’s a link to a break up playlist I made last time I had a break up: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/29yOiePbgM82OlHveLZuvT?si=d97cb66a10af4107
Homeopathy and breakups
Remember that homeopathic remedies act as catalysts to stimulate the body’s self-healing capabilities. If your symptoms persist or worsen, consider seeking professional homeopathic guidance.
Where to Buy Homeopathic Remedies:
Helios Homeopathy: https://www.helios.co.uk/
How to Take Homeopathic Remedies:
- Take the remedy in a 6C, 12C, 30X, or 30C potency.
- Repeat the remedy based on symptom severity.
- Stop taking the remedy upon improvement.
- Change the remedy if there’s no response after six doses or seek professional advice for chronic or complex issues.